The line at Starbucks upsets you People upset you. Your boss upsets you… Nope, wrong!
Actually, none of those things upset you. Your beliefs about them do. That’s what the Stoic philosophers believed.
“People are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them.” – Epictetus
Let’s say you expect something to take 3 hours. Turns out it only takes you 1 hour. You’re thrilled. But if you expect it take 30 minutes and it take 90 minutes you want to lose your mind. It took the time it took. Time didn’t change. 30 minutes is 30 minutes. An hour is an hour. You can’t change time. Your belief did. Your expectations did. And that determined your reaction.
Choose a better reaction.