Neuroscience Tell Us You’ll Be Happier, Reduce Stressed and Light The World on Fire with Productivity When You Stop Doing This.

Stop Complaining …

The author of my all time favorite book. ‘Mans Search For Meaning” Viktor E. Frankl says…

Between stimulus and response there is space.
In that space is our power to choose our response.
In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

If something bad happens, You get to choose how you’ll respond.

If something goes wrong, you get to choose how you’ll respond.

If someone does something you don’t like, you get to choose how you’ll respond.

If somebody posts some BS that you get an emotional charge (stimulus) from, you get to choose how you respond.

That’s an underlying premise of Stoicism:

While you can never control everything that happens, you can always control how you respond.

The next time something goes wrong, don’t waste time complaining. Put that same effort into making the situation better.

Even if you have that conversation only with yourself. In fact, I recommend to all of my audiences start by having this conversation with yourself. Nobody else give a crap.

Practice how you’ll respond and in time you’ll build up neural pathways that make responding that way even easier.

In effect, being positive will become a skill — one you built through deep, deliberate practice.

But don’t stop there. When the people around you complain, definitely listen–but then help them focus on helping them find ways to improve the situation. 

However, remember we cannot control other people. So after offering some helping advise if they don’t respond – let that shit go.


1. Dr. Elaine Hatfield, The Research Digest

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Eric Herdman is an accomplished speaker, business leader, coach and facilitator, who has been speaking professionally in-person for almost 3 decades and as a virtual presenter for nearly 4 years. During his presentations Eric will entertain, inform, educate, and engage your audiences into action. Herdman is an innovator in helping others grow. Working with audiences and individuals and building his speaking business have been at the core of what Eric does, since he started speaking professionally in 1996. Eric has also experienced the start-up and development side of business when in late 2004, he raised the $1,000,000 necessary to open a startup called “Red Rock Running Company.” He grew the business into one of the largest specialty retailers in the southwestern United States market, with exponential growth. Eric is dedicated to orchestrating know-how. As a business owner and leader, his staff was trained and empowered to make decisions and deliver an excellent customer experience. His innovative advertising and social media networking efforts exposed niches for growing his customer base and filling their needs. As an International Professional Speaker, Eric’s clients include one of the world's largest franchise health club chains. He is well-known for his know-how in servicing customers and training staff and helped them reach a $20,000 increase in revenue in the first month of using his strategy. He works with a variety of clients from multibillion-dollar pharmaceutical companies to top financial institutions to national associations and government agencies. Eric has published several books including “Actions Speak Louder Than Words,” and “The Complete Guide to Managing Everything, Everyone and Every Task.” Most recently, Eric’s “Time, Energy, and Focus” book has been expanded online as a Masterclass. For over 38 years Eric has walked the talk as a competitive ultra-endurance athlete, competing in 103 triathlons, 6 marathons and 35 ultra marathons. Eric holds the 12-hour course record at both “Flatlanders” race and “Race Against the Clock” as well as the 50-mile course record in the “Valley of Fire” race. He has also competed in many 24 hour races, including the "Ultimate Treadmill Challenge" where he raced for 24 hours on a treadmill. Whether you’re looking to strategically position your business, get more from your team, or get into shape, Herdman has the style and leadership to help you and your team achieve top-level success. For more on Eric’s programs email or text/call us at 702-553-7802.