Why are we so concerned about what other people think of us?

Why Should You Stop…?

The way I see it…

You should stop giving a shi*t about what other people think because you are going to die some day. 

Dead. Done.  Enough said. 

Okay… there is a bit more.

Most people are generally more preoccupied with themselves than with you.
They spend more time focused on their own insecurities, worries, money, looks, car, clothes, Starbucks drink, diet, work and self-talk than actually thinking about your crap. When someone expresses an opinion about your life, it’s probably not something they’ve given a great deal of thought about.  In my experience they may not have given it a thought at all. 
Most people are far too absorbed with everything they have going on to really notice you. Sorry, but it’s true.  Once you start to realize that people are fixated on their own stuff and insecurities, it will make it a lot easier to stop worrying so much about what other people think. 

Most people don’t take care of themselves. They eat crap, think crap, take crap, feel like crap, look like crap and listen to crap.

Eric Herdman

One final thought…

What about this idea?  Most people don’t think very much of themselves.  Think about it. My dad always said… who said that?  When I answered, his reply was usually… consider the source son. 
Most people don’t take care of themselves! They eat crap, think crap, take crap, feel like crap, look like crap and listen to crap.  Why on earth would you put stock in peoples opinion who don’t think that much of themselves. 

How can stop giving a sh*t what other people think?

Maybe it’s not a question of why do you care what other people think but HOW do you STOP?

You can stop giving a sh*t what other people think by focusing on only what you can control in your life.

The things you can control in your life are your thoughts and your actions. That’s it. You can’t ever be entirely sure how people will react to those actions. So why worry?

Seriously, there’s no need to ever worry about what other people think. People might not like you and some are indifferent to you but they can’t stop you from being yourself.

*Disclaimer:  It’s wise to consult other people for their opinions. No one knows it all and it’s easy to let our biases distort our decision making. I’m all for listening to advice, and even heeding it if it makes sense.  In addition to that, It is important to focus on what clients and customers think. I have a career where I have chosen to be in service to others. Help others. Make others better. I do care what my clients and customers think. #thewayiseeit

Eric Herdman is a Professional Speaker, Coach and Author. When companies need orchestrated human optimization solutions for their productivity & leadership problems they contact Eric for proven, reliable & pragmatic techniques. 

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