Why are we so concerned about what other people think of us?

Posted byEric HerdmanPosted inProductivity

Why Should You Stop…?

The way I see it…

You should stop giving a shi*t about what other people think because you are going to die some day. 


Dead. Done.  Enough said. 


Okay… there is a bit more.

Most people are generally more preoccupied with themselves than with you.
They spend more time focused on their own insecurities, worries, money, looks, car, clothes, Starbucks drink, diet, work and self-talk than actually thinking about your crap. When someone expresses an opinion about your life, it’s probably not something they’ve given a great deal of thought about.  In my experience they may not have given it a thought at all. 
Most people are far too absorbed with everything they have going on to really notice you. Sorry, but it’s true.  Once you start to realize that people are fixated on their own stuff and insecurities, it will make it a lot easier to stop worrying so much about what other people think. 

Most people don’t take care of themselves. They eat crap, think crap, take crap, feel like crap, look like crap and listen to crap.

Eric Herdman


One final thought…

What about this idea?  Most people don’t think very much of themselves.  Think about it. My dad always said… who said that?  When I answered, his reply was usually… consider the source son. 
Most people don’t take care of themselves! They eat crap, think crap, take crap, feel like crap, look like crap and listen to crap.  Why on earth would you put stock in peoples opinion who don’t think that much of themselves. 


How can stop giving a sh*t what other people think?

Maybe it’s not a question of why do you care what other people think but HOW do you STOP?

You can stop giving a sh*t what other people think by focusing on only what you can control in your life.

The things you can control in your life are your thoughts and your actions. That’s it. You can’t ever be entirely sure how people will react to those actions. So why worry?

Seriously, there’s no need to ever worry about what other people think. People might not like you and some are indifferent to you but they can’t stop you from being yourself.

*Disclaimer:  It’s wise to consult other people for their opinions. No one knows it all and it’s easy to let our biases distort our decision making. I’m all for listening to advice, and even heeding it if it makes sense.  In addition to that, It is important to focus on what clients and customers think. I have a career where I have chosen to be in service to others. Help others. Make others better. I do care what my clients and customers think. #thewayiseeit

Eric Herdman is a Professional Speaker, Coach and Author. When companies need orchestrated human optimization solutions for their productivity & leadership problems they contact Eric for proven, reliable & pragmatic techniques. 

This article was written and fueled by: priming my brain with reading 30-90 articles before writing.  Time restricted feeding. Lions mane added to my cold brew coffee. The right environment for this work Starbucks. Binaural Beats playing in my headphones. It’s the right TIME for this work.  The right ENERGY cycle and my FOCUS was optimized to be awesome. My new book is all about getting the right things done at the right time. For more info on how to do this to yourself click here. 

Published by Eric Herdman

Eric Herdman is an accomplished speaker, business leader, coach and facilitator, who has been speaking professionally in-person for almost 3 decades and as a virtual presenter for nearly 4 years. During his presentations Eric will entertain, inform, educate, and engage your audiences into action. Herdman is an innovator in helping others grow. Working with audiences and individuals and building his speaking business have been at the core of what Eric does, since he started speaking professionally in 1996. Eric has also experienced the start-up and development side of business when in late 2004, he raised the $1,000,000 necessary to open a startup called “Red Rock Running Company.” He grew the business into one of the largest specialty retailers in the southwestern United States market, with exponential growth. Eric is dedicated to orchestrating know-how. As a business owner and leader, his staff was trained and empowered to make decisions and deliver an excellent customer experience. His innovative advertising and social media networking efforts exposed niches for growing his customer base and filling their needs. As an International Professional Speaker, Eric’s clients include one of the world's largest franchise health club chains. He is well-known for his know-how in servicing customers and training staff and helped them reach a $20,000 increase in revenue in the first month of using his strategy. He works with a variety of clients from multibillion-dollar pharmaceutical companies to top financial institutions to national associations and government agencies. Eric has published several books including “Actions Speak Louder Than Words,” and “The Complete Guide to Managing Everything, Everyone and Every Task.” Most recently, Eric’s “Time, Energy, and Focus” book has been expanded online as a Masterclass. For over 38 years Eric has walked the talk as a competitive ultra-endurance athlete, competing in 103 triathlons, 6 marathons and 35 ultra marathons. Eric holds the 12-hour course record at both “Flatlanders” race and “Race Against the Clock” as well as the 50-mile course record in the “Valley of Fire” race. He has also competed in many 24 hour races, including the "Ultimate Treadmill Challenge" where he raced for 24 hours on a treadmill. Whether you’re looking to strategically position your business, get more from your team, or get into shape, Herdman has the style and leadership to help you and your team achieve top-level success. For more on Eric’s programs email gail@ericherdman.com or text/call us at 702-553-7802.