It’s not easy to think of the statement. Most of us have support. Most have friends and a social circle. However, most don’t want to go to these people with their “issues” and struggles. I suggest you should. It might help. Connect. Talk to a friend. Not to complain or moan and groan to them but to talk it out with someone safe. Someone who won’t judge you or try and fix the “problem.”
But before you talk with them…
YOU MUST SAVE YOURSELF.
Help yourself before you go and talk to someone by imagining no one is going to save you. No one is going to fix your shi… stuff. No one is coming for you and YOU MUST SAVE YOURSELF. What will you do?
After you do this exercise a few time you will start to develop the ability to be comfortable being UNcomfortable. A topic I know all too well. All 103 triathlons, 6 marathons and 35 ultra running races gave me all of the introductions and practice I needed to build the mental machinery to be comfortable being uncomfortable.
When the sting of NO ONE IS COMING FOR YOU hits you and it will. Sit with that feeling. Let is stay with you. Don’t diminish is. Don’t ignore it. Don’t talk yourself off the ledge of uncomfortable. Stay there. Okay. Then what?
Become curious. Curious about what you feel. Curious about where that feeling is coming from. Curious about all of the feelings and their origin. Just let curiosity take over.
How would Jeff Bezos solve this problem? What would Charles Bukowski do with this trouble?
After you spend 10-20 minutes (what!?!?!? 10-20 minutes!) Yep. Then shift into solution mode. Let yourself see some solutions from another persons perspective. Imagine you are Steve Jobs. What would Steve Jobs do with this problem? How would Jeff Bezos solve this problem? What would Charles Bukowski do with this trouble? (Okay, maybe not how Bukowski would handle it) Maybe you have a parent or grandparent that is a great problem solver – what would they do with this pile of crap?
Solutions you are not going to see sitting there in a pile of woe is me.
This opens your mind to seeing different solutions. Solutions you are not going to see sitting there in a pile of woe is me. This works best after sitting in curiosity. It’s the primer. The grease that lubes up the solution pipeline.
What you should have before you now are some ideas.
What you should have before you now are some ideas. I know some will be over the top ideas. Far fetched. Not doable unless you have the Billions of dollars that Bezos has but you will also have some that have some “life” to them.
Formally brainstorm and tease the viable ideas out. See where they take you.
If you still feel like talking to a friend go for it.