No one is coming for you.


It’s not easy to think of the statement. Most of us have support. Most have friends and a social circle. However, most don’t want to go to these people with their “issues” and struggles. I suggest you should. It might help. Connect. Talk to a friend. Not to complain or moan and groan to them but to talk it out with someone safe. Someone who won’t judge you or try and fix the “problem.”

But before you talk with them…

YOU MUST SAVE YOURSELF.

Help yourself before you go and talk to someone by imagining no one is going to save you. No one is going to fix your shi… stuff. No one is coming for you and YOU MUST SAVE YOURSELF. What will you do?

After you do this exercise a few time you will start to develop the ability to be comfortable being UNcomfortable. A topic I know all too well. All 103 triathlons, 6 marathons and 35 ultra running races gave me all of the introductions and practice I needed to build the mental machinery to be comfortable being uncomfortable.

When the sting of NO ONE IS COMING FOR YOU hits you and it will. Sit with that feeling. Let is stay with you. Don’t diminish is. Don’t ignore it. Don’t talk yourself off the ledge of uncomfortable. Stay there. Okay. Then what?

Become curious. Curious about what you feel. Curious about where that feeling is coming from. Curious about all of the feelings and their origin. Just let curiosity take over.

How would Jeff Bezos solve this problem? What would Charles Bukowski do with this trouble?

After you spend 10-20 minutes (what!?!?!? 10-20 minutes!) Yep. Then shift into solution mode. Let yourself see some solutions from another persons perspective. Imagine you are Steve Jobs. What would Steve Jobs do with this problem? How would Jeff Bezos solve this problem? What would Charles Bukowski do with this trouble? (Okay, maybe not how Bukowski would handle it) Maybe you have a parent or grandparent that is a great problem solver – what would they do with this pile of crap?

Solutions you are not going to see sitting there in a pile of woe is me.

This opens your mind to seeing different solutions. Solutions you are not going to see sitting there in a pile of woe is me. This works best after sitting in curiosity. It’s the primer. The grease that lubes up the solution pipeline.

What you should have before you now are some ideas.

What you should have before you now are some ideas. I know some will be over the top ideas. Far fetched. Not doable unless you have the Billions of dollars that Bezos has but you will also have some that have some “life” to them.

Formally brainstorm and tease the viable ideas out. See where they take you.

If you still feel like talking to a friend go for it.

Published by Eric Herdman

Eric Herdman is an accomplished speaker, business leader, coach and facilitator, who has been speaking professionally in-person for almost 3 decades and as a virtual presenter for nearly 4 years. During his presentations Eric will entertain, inform, educate, and engage your audiences into action. Herdman is an innovator in helping others grow. Working with audiences and individuals and building his speaking business have been at the core of what Eric does, since he started speaking professionally in 1996. Eric has also experienced the start-up and development side of business when in late 2004, he raised the $1,000,000 necessary to open a startup called “Red Rock Running Company.” He grew the business into one of the largest specialty retailers in the southwestern United States market, with exponential growth. Eric is dedicated to orchestrating know-how. As a business owner and leader, his staff was trained and empowered to make decisions and deliver an excellent customer experience. His innovative advertising and social media networking efforts exposed niches for growing his customer base and filling their needs. As an International Professional Speaker, Eric’s clients include one of the world's largest franchise health club chains. He is well-known for his know-how in servicing customers and training staff and helped them reach a $20,000 increase in revenue in the first month of using his strategy. He works with a variety of clients from multibillion-dollar pharmaceutical companies to top financial institutions to national associations and government agencies. Eric has published several books including “Actions Speak Louder Than Words,” and “The Complete Guide to Managing Everything, Everyone and Every Task.” Most recently, Eric’s “Time, Energy, and Focus” book has been expanded online as a Masterclass. For over 38 years Eric has walked the talk as a competitive ultra-endurance athlete, competing in 103 triathlons, 6 marathons and 35 ultra marathons. Eric holds the 12-hour course record at both “Flatlanders” race and “Race Against the Clock” as well as the 50-mile course record in the “Valley of Fire” race. He has also competed in many 24 hour races, including the "Ultimate Treadmill Challenge" where he raced for 24 hours on a treadmill. Whether you’re looking to strategically position your business, get more from your team, or get into shape, Herdman has the style and leadership to help you and your team achieve top-level success. For more on Eric’s programs email or text us at 702-805-4805.