The line at Starbucks upsets you People upset you. Your boss upsets you… Nope, wrong!
Actually, none of those things upset you. Your beliefs about them do. That’s what the Stoic philosophers believed.
“People are not disturbed by things, but by the views they take of them.” – Epictetus
Let’s say you expect something to take 3 hours. Turns out it only takes you 1 hour. You’re thrilled. But if you expect it take 30 minutes and it take 90 minutes you want to lose your mind. It took the time it took. Time didn’t change. 30 minutes is 30 minutes. An hour is an hour. You can’t change time. Your belief did. Your expectations did. And that determined your reaction.
Choose a better reaction.
Some people refuse to realize the consequences of social media (SM) on them.
The fact that they never experienced anxiety or depression before SM says something.
Social media amplifies this anxiety because they WANT you to be engaged in the public defense of your ideas or the attacking of others. Never before have you been able to engage in a nonstop constant public defense of your egoic stories. Your ego secretly loves it and feeds off it, starving you of mindfulness. You can help but be sucked in to the deep, dank dark rabbit hole of it.
Please notice, before social media came along, you didn’t have this particular type of suffering in your life. It’s manufactured, amplified, shoved in your face and presented to you on a screen all day long.
Some experts advise taking tiny steps… aim low… and try to engage a little less every day in the public defense of yourself.
If you lack the self-control to regulate yourself and can’t stop engaging. I say delete the shit. End your weakness. Save yourself.
Don’t say these things at work… if you do please stop!
For the research, Morar Consulting surveyed 1,061 US employees working in offices with at least 5 people. They got “a small monetary incentive” for participating.
Curious about what other jargon the respondents identified really didn’t like? Take these from the survey. We provided the translations.
(Whatever you do don’t say #3 and #5. Please no!)
Here is the list… check yourself below…
1. Blue-sky thinking
2. In the weeds
When you add up the pros and cons, this is the answer.
Add numbers to improve the analysis.
Put into action.
7. Let’s parking lot this
8. Siloed thinking
Forgetting to consider the impact on other teams or parts of the company.
Let’s stop thinking of it this way and think about it this other way.
10. It’s time to eat a reality sandwich
Back to the real world for a second.
11. It’s time to put the soup through the strainer
There’s a lot of junk here we don’t need.
Full research and article here at 12 ridiculous phrases smart people avoid at work https://www.theladders.com/career-advice/12-ridiculous-phrases-smart-people-avoid.
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Writings from Socrates, Plato, Confucius, Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus and other philosophers remind us to master our time, focus, energy, mindfulness and attention to get things done.
How is stoicism relevant to being productive and getting meaningful work done?
The Stoics focus on two key things:
1) How can we lead a fulfilling and meaningful life?
2) How can we become better human beings?
How to do this today:
Ask yourself as you begin working on something… is this the best use of my time now?
Then, identify your high energy and focus times for you. Plug these items into the appropriate time slots so that you can maximize your time, energy and focus.
“Some things are within our power, while others are not. Within our power are opinion, motivation, desire, aversion, and, in a word, whatever is of our own doing; not within our power are our body, our property, reputation, office, and, in a word, whatever is not of our own doing.” — Epictetus
Ancient philosophers preach the importance of an action mindset, and against worrying unnecessarily in our pursuit of a better life.
Later this week….
They were big believers in and practiced many things that build grit and resilience. How can you take a page out of their grit building play book and benefit.
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Mindfulness is not just a practice it’s the answer…
In many of my seminars and talks over the past 6 months I’ve found myself answering many of the questions on how to maximizing productivity in specific on how to do deep meaningful work with be mindful.
> 1. the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.
> 2. a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.
Mindfulness as an answer was tough for me initially. I’m normally the no-nonsense speaker. Remember my article on “The problems are multi layered and complex but the solutions are simple.” It’s in that article that I made the case for not over complicating the solutions to our problems and all solutions don’t have to be some magical mystical purple unicorn moment where you have a big a-ah!
I’ll make that case again here with mindfulness. First, it’s not woo woo stuff. Being present is real and very powerful.
The challenge of mindfulness in and around productivity is making yourself be present and take a hard look at what you’re doing or NOT doing. Ouch that hurt a bit didn’t it.
Where to begin…
Here are just some of the top mindfulness techniques:
There is more than one way to practice mindfulness, but the goal of any mindfulness technique is to achieve a state of alert, focused relaxation by deliberately paying attention to thoughts and sensations without judgment. This allows the mind to refocus on the present moment. All mindfulness techniques are a form of meditation.
-Basic mindfulness meditation – Sit quietly and focus on your natural breathing or on a word or “mantra” that you repeat silently. Allow thoughts to come and go without judgment and return to your focus on breath or mantra.
-Body sensations – Notice subtle body sensations such as an itch or tingling without judgment and let them pass. Notice each part of your body in succession from head to toe.
-Sensory – Notice sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches. Name them “sight,” “sound,” “smell,” “taste,” or “touch” without judgment and let them go.
-Emotions – Allow emotions to be present without judgment. Practice a steady and relaxed naming of emotions: “joy,” “anger,” “frustration.” Accept the presence of the emotions without judgment and let them go.
-Urge surfing – Cope with cravings (for addictive substances or behaviors) and allow them to pass. Notice how your body feels as the craving enters. Replace the wish for the craving to go away with the certain knowledge that it will subside.
How to deploy this in the real world?
-The next conversation you have don’t have your phone in your hand and pay attention to what’s being said.
-Ask the person checking you out at the store or the barista making your coffee “ how are you today?” And really wait for their answer. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk. Be quiet and just listen to what they are saying.
-Pick a time of the day, say while you are reading an article, reading the news site that you frequent or even watching a YouTube video and be totally present in that moment doing that one thing.
Try it out….
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